2014-10-30 / Obituaries
Kevin Sidney Hayter
Professor Kevin Sidney Hayter, 81, of Manalapan, died Saturday, Oct. 18, 2014, at Care One, Wall Township. The world is a little less magical today. A captivating lecturer and equally charming raconteur, Kevin, a Fulbright Scholar, was a successful wine importer after a 30-plus-year career as a beloved literature professor at Brookdale Community College, Lincroft. He also excelled as a coach of men’s and women’s tennis. At the time he retired from coaching he held the most wins of any community college tennis coach in the country.
But Kevin’s true brilliance was his love of people. He was always ready to forgive and ask for forgiveness without condition and to offer a helping hand. An overpowering personality, Kevin’s generosity was only outpaced by his ability to own a room the second he walked into it. His love of fine art and music was deep, but Kevin loved nothing more than literature. Of the more than 1,000 books in his home, he was capable of reciting from memory verses from any one of them. He shepherded the Brookdale Writers Series for years, bringing famous authors to Brookdale, ranging from the renowned Anne Sexton to beat poet Allen Ginsberg to James Dickey and Isaac Asimov, the most prolific author of our time. His bombastic approach to life often served him well and also humbled him at times, but through it all, Kevin was the epitome of dapper. He would not be seen even visiting someone in a hospital without his designer suit and matching silk handkerchiefs.
If asked to describe his own life, Kevin would say “Simply magnificent!” Born in Sydney, New South Wales, Kevin’s accent only got thicker for the many years he lived in Monmouth Beach, Basking Ridge and finally Manalapan. After retiring from Brookdale, Kevin went on to import wines for Hardys, Australia; Tyrrell’s, Australia; and The Wine Bow, New York City. Everywhere Kevin visited in his later life is now populated by his wines. He is predeceased by both his parents, Sidney Harold Hayter and Mary Phillips O’Callaghan; his sister, Patti Morris; and the mother of his children, Robyn. Surviving are his three children, Michael and his wife, Wendy, of Turramurra, Australia; Kellie Hayter, of Mudgee, Australia; and Nicole Hayter, of The Rock, Australia; and six grandchildren, Kylie; Alex and his wife, Amy; Cassandra; Laura; Matthew; and Steven; five great-grandchildren and his nephews, Brendan, Quentin and Shawn, all of Australia. The family requests that donations be made in lieu of flowers to the Kevin Hayter Memorial Scholarship, Brookdale Foundation, Brookdale Community College, 765 Newman Springs Road, Lincroft, NJ 07738. A memorial service will be held at 2 p.m. Nov. 1 at the Lincroft Inn, known lovingly by Kevin as the “faculty club,” Newman Springs Road, Lincroft.
Visit Kevin’s memorial website available at www.johnedayfuneralhome.com.